You’re a parent. You’re not perfect, but maybe you wonder about what you could be doing better or what mistakes you’re making when it comes to your child’s education. Well, after receiving various questions re: this subject, our staff decided to sit down and address the issue.
The truth is – sometimes our children fail or lag behind because parents intend to do one thing and end up on the wrong leadership path. That’s why we have decided to list the top 3 things parents do that could be considered education-based mistakes.
- Thinking bad grades are a phase or the teacher’s fault. Sure, it could be a hormone based phase or a bad teacher (they do come in and out of all of our lives) that are causing bad grades, but this isn’t usually the issue. There always tends to be something different and it is almost always a learning disability or a learning style issue at the root cause. Brushing off bad grades as a phase or a teacher shouldn’t be the new norm. Instead, we encourage parents to take this seriously and investigate the cause.
- Assuming you have all the homework and that everything is all-good. Parent involvement shouldn’t be relying upon your children as a way to check into what is going on with their education. Kids forget and get distracted or downplay assignments. As a parent, being involved directly with teachers, tutors, or Academic Success Coaches is the best way to stay in the loop and ensure your children are really getting homework down and not just memorizing the material- but understanding it!
- Too much praise. This one is a bit controversial. Children should be nurtured and praised. But when that praise becomes too much, why reach a goal? Why work through something hard? When praise is handed out without measurable growth, what does it become? We have found that children who are overly praised tend not to understand the value of education and it becomes an even harder adjustment for them (in school and in life) as they get older and have to meet the standards of goals that are not easy to achieve. Overly praised children tend to not adjust well when incidents of failure happen – and they do happen. Understanding praise earned is a great reward for children. Praising children for every little thing has been shown to actually harm self-esteem and self-motivational habits later on in life.